Why is a Positive Attitude Important and How Do You Get One?
The type of attitude you possess depends entirely on you. It can be either positive or negative. The great thing is – you get to choose. No one can make you feel a particular way because you must remember that you are in control of how you choose to feel. When someone does or says something that you feel was meant to hurt you, that may or may not have been their intent. Oftentimes, hurt feelings are simply a matter of misunderstanding. Even if the person’s intent was malicious, you can simply choose not to let this affect you. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
One of my favorite movies is The Point of No Return starring Bridget Fonda, Gabriel Byrne, and Anne Bancroft. The movie is a remake of La Femme Nikita and Bridget Fonda’s character, Maggie, is a lawbreaking criminal who chose to become a paid assassin in lieu of death by lethal injection. She is very rough around the edges and as part of her training she receives etiquette lessons. Her transformation is nothing short of remarkable. In one scene, her coach for this endeavor, played by Anne Bancroft, gives her a tip on how to control her temper. She tells her that when something bad happens or a situation goes awry to simply smile and say something like, “I never did mind about the little things”. This is one of my favorite movie quotes and I use it quite often. It helps me to put things into perspective.
In the past, I used to let little things drive me crazy, and I must admit that sometimes I still do. The difference is, now when I feel that happening, I try to make a conscious effort to choose a positive attitude.
There is much to be gained from having a positive attitude. Studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Projecting positivity helps with handling stress and we all know that our health is directly linked to how we cope with stress.
A positive attitude is a foundation you can build upon. It would be quite difficult to be confident, outgoing, and enthusiastic without first having a positive attitude. A positive attitude supports positive attributes; a negative attitude does not. It’s pretty obvious why positive people have more friends than negative people. If you first choose a positive attitude, other positives will follow.
In today’s fast paced, high tech society, we are bombarded with information. Many of us are experiencing information overload. Between e-mails, snail mail, text mail, billboards, newspapers, and magazines, advertisers are all competing for our attention. Then there’s the news, which is almost always negative. Thousands of positive things occur every single day, but the media focuses on sharing mostly bad stuff.
So how do you stay positive amidst so much negativity?
1. For starters, you can limit your news intake and consider your news sources very carefully.
2. Do things that make you happy. Watch funny movies, listen to your favorite music, spend time with people whose company you enjoy, or pursue a hobby.
3. One of the easiest and best things you can do to keep a positive attitude is to think about everything in your life for which you are grateful.
If you have a roof over your head, a bed to sleep in, food to eat, and are wearing clothing, then you should be grateful. If you are able to read this message then you have the gift of sight and you should be grateful. If someone is reading this to you, then you have the gift of hearing and again, you should be grateful. If you are reading this on a computer that you own, then by most of the world’s standards, you are quite wealthy and you should be grateful.
We take so many things for granted and in doing so we allow negativity to creep in to our lives. If you start paying attention to the gifts you already have and begin each day by giving thanks, it’s easy to have a positive attitude.