True Happiness – Where And How To Find It
Something when things seem to be going wrong, you wonder how to find true happiness. People around you seem to be happy despite their daily stressful life. How do they do it?
If you look for the secret outside, it will be difficult to find true happiness as you will be dependent on external factors. It needs to come from within yourself.
When you think about it, sometimes you find that it is dissatisfaction with your own self that causes the unhappiness. Logically speaking, you may not have done anything wrong and the external world has no issues with you. But deep inside, you are unhappy.
So, the first thing is to be able to accept yourself as you are at that moment in time. You are not perfect, just as everyone else. Accepting that first is important. Once you do that, then your pursuit of happiness is a little easier. Put this behind you and look for ways and means of how to improve yourself.
For true happiness, you also need to be contented with what you already have. Finding happiness will not be so difficult if you can learn how to be happy with your current job, your family, your friends, your home and all the other things that you have.
Being contented does not mean not to strive for better things. If you are angry and unhappy with yourself, it is difficult to work on achieving newer and better things. For now be happy with what you have, while you plan and work for better things in life. The calmness that you feel will help in your efforts for betterment.
Some people are so angry with the world, with their bosses, with their parents. Anger with anyone does not hurt anyone except yourself. So, stop complaining about all these and just take some simple action. This will slowly build up to bigger and better things.
Are you going to succeed all the time? It is unrealistic to expect that. How you respond to failing or losing in some instances is what is important. You will certainly feel disappointed and unhappy. Important thing is to pick yourself up, learn from the experience and get on with life. You will be able to look back at some point in the future and talk about how you responded and learnt from tough situations.
Sometimes you think how happy you will be if you could have an exotic holiday, own a beautiful home, get a bigger pay or some other dream that you have. You will be happy for a short while, but after that it becomes part of the normal for you. Then, what after that. How now to find true happiness?
If you really think about it, the pursuit of happiness cannot be for singular events. It needs to be related to whatever you do daily or however you feel for the day. Have you thought about how good health feels? People appreciate good health only when they get sick. When you face problems, you ability to stand up and face should give you a warm glow inside knowing that you have the strength to face adversity.
Acceptance of self is the first step. The next step is to be able to accept others as they are. It is really upsetting when others do not pull their own weight and are cause of some of the problems you face. It is fine to be upset and angry if it will help the situation, but it does not. It will make the others more defensive and instead of helping the situation, it becomes worst.
For true happiness, accept yourself as you are. Accept others as they are. Then, work on evaluating the situation, plan your actions and act on your plan. To that add one other little tip. In the words of Rabindranath Tagore, “The burden of the self is lightened with I laugh at myself”.