The 5 Lies We Hear About Finding Happiness
Have you ever wondered what it feels like to be happy? Not just giddy, not just joyful, but truly, deeply happy? As sad as it may seem, for a huge percentage of the population finding happiness is little more than a distant dream they take out to play with every once in a while, but never truly achieve-not for lack of trying, but because the lies they’ve heard from their friends, their family, their co-workers and the media about the path to finding happiness have them traveling in the wrong direction.
If you’re serious about finding the kind of happiness that lasts for a lifetime, you have to first untangle the myths you’ve been told about happiness since childhood to find the truth.
The 5 Most Common Lies We Hear About Finding Happiness
1. Money will buy happiness. Oh yes, you’ve probably heard hundreds of people, if not thousands, tell you over the years that money can’t buy happiness-but how many of them do you think actually believed it? Most people believe that fortune is the path to true happiness, because once they’ve achieved that they’ll have the time they need to go after the important things. However, as the book “The Big Lie”, by author Stan Sanderson of The Spiritual Coach Program states, once you hold money up as your ideal of true happiness it becomes your idol, and you’ll continue to seek it. That means that you’re always going to be chasing your dreams rather than achieving them.
2. The secret to finding happiness is to first find success. Most people look at today’s celebrities and think, “They must be so happy with their life.” If that’s the case, then why do drug use, sexual promiscuity and suicide run rampant on the Hollywood scene? Most of us spend our entire lives climbing the ladder of success, investing huge pieces of ourselves to make that dream come true only to find when we get to the top that that C-suite, that silver screen, leaves us feeling just as hollow as we felt when we were just ordinary men and women working for a dollar.
3. Your family is not the key to your happiness. Although your relationship with your family plays an integral role in the satisfaction you have with your day to day life, that usually has a more tangible reason-such as, when you have a strong, stable family your ex-wife isn’t calling you up to complain all day long! Broken families are a result of unhappiness, not a reason. When you have succeeded in finding happiness, deep in your soul, then you will have happiness in other areas of your life as well.
4. Happiness is a state of mind. If you can convince yourself that you’re happy, you will be happy. Well, yes-and no. Anyone who is sick to their soul will have a very difficult time convincing themselves that they’re anything other than miserable, and with good reason-they are miserable! Finding happiness is a state of mind, but more importantly, it’s a state of soul. If your soul’s not in it, you’re not going to get it-and that’s the bottom line.
5. You can make yourself happy. If the truth to this lie came out the pharmaceutical industry would lose millions in the sale of antidepressants, so it’s easy to understand why they’re keeping a lid on it! It doesn’t matter how many little happy pills you pop, self-medication isn’t the answer to finding happiness. Neither is throwing yourself whole-heartedly into your career, your life, your family, your pursuit of wealth or a life full of drugs, sex and rock ‘n roll. When it’s all said and done, you’re still going to be just as miserable as you were when you started.
The good news is that you’re not doomed to a lifetime of misery and depression just because everything you’ve ever heard about finding happiness has been a lie. The answer to finding happiness lies in finding completion in your soul, and the only way to find that completion is to open your heart to Jesus Christ. The Bible tells us in James 4:2, “You do not have, because you do not ask.” Open your heart and ask God to show you the true secret to finding happiness through the blood of Jesus Christ.
Then, and only then, can you leave the lies of finding happiness behind you and discover the soul deep peace and joy you’ve been waiting for.